"We met when she was 34 and I was 35. This is the best, most healthy, and honest relationship I've ever had. It started off intense. We were both very attracted to each other, but like most of us that age, we were jaded from our previous relationships. She commented on something I wrote in my dating profile, "Bruised not broken". Our first conversation was about our years in therapy."

Growing up in Europe in the early 90s, there weren't many Tamils around. The survival mentality made me feel like two different people. I was the good Tamil at home and at Tamil social gatherings, but outside, in the "other" world, I was a person trying to fit in and thrive.

"I recently sent this to the author of a great Tamil cookbook called, The Jaffna Tamil Cookbook by Nesa Arumugam. I wanted to her to know how important this book was. Not only did I learn how to make these great dishes, I also found a way to heal the connection that was broken. I hope this resonates with many."