Conversations about sex can be weird. They are also important to have with prospective partners. This is why I gave myself a set protocol, a script if you will. It goes like this.

Like many first generation diaspora Tamils, I grew up not really speaking Tamil. I spent the majority of my college years and early adulthood chastising my parents for not having taught me when I was young. Being an adult made it much harder to learn a language. Being an adult also made me responsible for my life choices. I wanted to speak Tamil.

"A friend recently asked me if I date white guys. My awkward answer was I don't know. I used to. All the time. My first love was 6', blond, and blue-eyed. Bless that man. He set the standard for attraction for several years. But the reality is that it's become increasingly difficult for me to date white men."