When I was 14, I went to see a psychic with my family, to ask about my future. He said: “No matter what you do, you will end up with an engineer and your marriage will happen much earlier than expected.” Guess what I did from that day onwards? I tried to date anyone but an engineer.
Fast forward to when I turned 24, my friend told me about myTamilDate.com. I didn’t want to sign up initially, but because it was free to join and I was curious about online dating, I thought ‘why not see what’s out there.’ That’s when I came across Sathish’s picture and his million dollar smile, but I didn’t reach out to him. The next day, I kept thinking about his captivating smile, so I logged back in to search for him again. I proceeded to send him a message and with just a click of a button, little did I know that I had just started the journey of meeting my soulmate. And as fate would have it, he was an engineer.
Everything from that day was a green light in our relationship, despite the fact that I lived in Toronto and he lived in New York. Instead of jumping into romance mode right away, we decided to build a strong friendship first and get to know each other over three continuous months. After those trial months, he came down to Toronto and asked me if I would be open to getting our parents involved. I come from a conservative family and this approach meant a lot to me. Going out on dates behind my parents back was hard - I hated lying to them. About 2 weeks after we met in person for the first time, I made a bold move and broke the news to my parents, with some help from my brother. In response, what I thought was going to become a hot mess, actually turned out to be a conversation full of tears of joy. My dad loved the idea of this guy I described and the values that were instilled in him. He loved that Sathish wanted to ask his permission to date me.
A few months after we received my parents’ blessing to date, a close family member on Sathish’s side had a health scare and we decided to get married to ensure that they could witness a celebration that meant a lot to them. On August 20th, we got married and it was by far the most important day of our lives. It was the celebration of two families coming together and the two of us could not have been happier with the decision. Our marriage was rushed for sure, but we trusted in the timing of our lives and how we found each other. Some people around us judged the way in which we met and how quickly we wed. We put all of that aside and did what we thought was best for our relationship and our families. Looking back, the most challenging aspect of our journey was overcoming the harsh words of those who doubted our relationship which ultimately made us much stronger as a couple.
Today, we both live in New York and the only setback for me is being miles and miles apart from my family for the first time. However, that was a painful but worthwhile sacrifice. I am so blessed to have met a man like Sathish, who has been consistent from day one, open and understanding and is truly a loving friend and husband to me.
So, what does Sathish have to say about their journey?
"I am truly grateful to Suganya - she’s my best friend. It’s like at work, we always work in two’s in a partnership. While I’m up on the bridge inspecting something, I have my partner below making sure I don’t fall off a 400ft high structure. That’s why I knew I was ready for marriage. I know I need and value that support system and I found that in her - a loyal wife who brings out the best in me even when I’m under stress."