How to Keep the Spark Alive in a Relationship
Although it may seem impossible to reignite the flame and desire you once had towards your significant other, I am here to lend you some advice on what has worked for other couples in keeping the spark alive in their long term relationships.
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Being in love is truly one of the greatest feelings in the world. Those intense feelings of happiness, nervousness and excitement you experience just with the simple thought or presence of your partner being next to you IS what is termed "spark" in relation to romantic relationships. However, over time, many of us seem to believe that all good things must come to an end, and to a certain extent they unfortunately do. The dynamics of your relationship can eventually start to change as you settle into the routine of everyday life and struggle to keep up with the roles and responsibilities of being a partner, spouse or a parent. Although it may seem impossible to reignite the flame and desire you once had towards your significant other, I am here to lend you some advice on what has worked for other couples in keeping the spark alive in their long term relationships. For the purpose of this article and for privacy reasons, I will be referring to each couple using fake names. 

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DON’T DITCH THE DATE NIGHTS 

With the hustle and bustle of everyday life, date nights can be particularly hard to work into our busy schedules. I get it, you’ve had a long day at work and have been sitting in traffic for at least an hour. By the time you come home, you only have an hour or two to spare to get in that workout, prepare and have dinner and check up on your partner before getting ready for bed. I asked three couples what they do to keep the spark alive in their relationship and they all emphasized the importance of making time for date nights.

One married couple by the name of Raj and Priya explained, "With our busy schedules, we don’t often find the time to go out, but we do make it a habit to carve out some time for each other when the kids are asleep. You just gotta get creative! We sometimes order Hello Fresh and try to create new meals together or we’ll take our kid’s art supplies and make a paint night out of it. Date nights don’t always have to be fine dining at a restaurant or a movie". Priya goes on to explain, "I think it’s important to show your partner that you are thinking of them and pre-planning an evening together helps us rebuild our love for each other."

Pradheep and Suganya who have been dating for almost 4 years now also mentioned, "We try to plan an activity at least once a week together, usually on the weekends. We love being outdoors, we usually like to go on hikes together or road trips or sometimes we’ll ride our bikes together." The main takeaways I got from interviewing these couples was that it didn’t matter how their time was spent, but rather they made a conscious effort to spend quality time together and found creative ways of showing their partner they cared.

PUT IN THE EFFORT

Along with putting in the effort with date nights, most couples also stressed the importance of putting in the effort with their overall appearance. It is inevitable to become lazy with ourselves and overtime we begin to get comfortable with our partners and lose interest in our general upkeep. However, this can really put a damper in your relationship in terms of creating desire and attraction. For example, styling your hair up in a messy bun and wearing your favourite Tamil nightie to sleep is by no means going to turn up the heat in bedroom. At the same time, skipping out on your bi-weekly haircuts to Diana’s and allowing your beard to grow as long as Dumbledore ain’t gonna make your girl scream, unless you look like Jason Momoa that is.

Ram and Shalini, a couple who have been dating for 7 plus years mentioned, "our similar taste in fashion is what drew us to each other in the first place. We try to make it a habit of not letting ourselves go. When you look good, you feel good." Pradheep and Suganya also attested to this by saying, "we both value our overall health and well-being and to us staying active and eating healthy keeps us looking and feeling our best." Raj and Priya also agreed that "when it comes to creating intimacy, you HAVE to put in the effort to look good; not just for your partner but for yourself." Based on their feedback, it is safe to say that looks do matter and any effort is appreciated with creating romance with your significant other.

 

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