Lupus is an autoimmune disease where the immune system is hyper active and starts to attack healthy cells and tissues in the body. It is an illness that I am currently living with today and will have to endure forever.
As a Tamil kid, one common expectation in life is go to school, graduate, go to university and get a degree. Not to mention, striving to land the perfect high status job. Basically, you want to be the one perfect kid that every Tamil aunty and uncle compares his or her child to. You are expected to be at the top of the game ALL the time!
There is no all-encompassing formula for relationships. The diversity of individuals in this world ensures no possible algorithm for success. Consider yourself fortunate if you get it right and find someone whose values and perspectives beat to the rhythm of your own life.