I still remember when I met Nishanthan for the first time. We belonged to the same musical school so I heard him before I saw him. It was our annual talent show, and there he was, playing My Heart Will Go On from Titanic.
When I first met Paheer, I knew he was the one. However, I had no idea how he would ask the big question. We both live and work in Toronto and have taken many trips together. This time he suggested we go to Dubai.
A friend recently asked me if I date white guys. My awkward answer was I don’t know. I used to. All the time. My first love was 6′, blond, and blue-eyed. Bless that man. He set the standard for attraction for several years. But the reality is that it’s become increasingly difficult for me to date white men.
People are often judged based on their partners in the past, instead of who they are in the present. What is it that matters most in a relationship? Our team had trouble finalizing this script and also bringing this to life due to how difficult of a topic this can be, especially in a community that doesn’t like to talk about these things.
“They destroyed our nation. They are rapists. They are murderers. They stole our land. They killed our people.” My mom would always repeat this to me. She would tell me stories about the war and how brutally everyone had suffered. I, too, believed all her stories.